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Author Networking No-No: Talking Too Much

Rebecca Graf is a seasoned writer with nearly a decade of experience. She holds degrees in accounting, history, and creative writing.

Yes, you can talk too much online. It doesn’t happen just in real life. You can overtake anything online just by putting your words out there way too often. Taking over conversations might be a little too easy for some people.

Some people comment and comment and comment. They post and they post. They never shut up. That can be a big networking no-no.


Active Versus Too Active

Be active but not overly active. Limit the amount of time you network so you don’t become overbearing to others. You want to be present but not all over each other. Too much of anything is not good.

Don’t leave too many comments in one thread. Let other people get the chance to talk. Monopolizing the conversation will give you a bad rep. Not something you want in networking.

Interact with people. Listen to them. There’s an old saying that you have one mouth and two ears which means you need to listen twice as much as you talk. Practice that in your networking.

It comes back to letting the other person know that you don’t think you are more important than they are. Ask them questions. Let them talk. Listen.

Let me also add that talking too much can extend into the topics. You can talk too much when it comes to politics or religion. Learn to know when to stop talking about a subject before it explodes. Don’t push it too far no matter how passionate you are about the topic.



I see this happen a lot. People get into discussions and take over it all. They start to answer every question and have an opinion about everything. It gets to the point where you nearly dread seeing their name pop up. It's almost like they are lurking about just waiting on activity. Those are people who take over everything. You'll notice that they direct everything back to themselves. It's all about them which is a big networking turnoff.

Networking is a give and take process. Pay attention to others and don't make it all about you.



No one likes a big mouth. If you tell everyone's business, you'll find people shying away from you or talking to you just to find out the latest gossip. Neither one is a good place to be. You need to watch what info you share with other people. If others see you as one who tells everything they know, they will be wary about getting too close to you and might avoid you altogether.

Don't shoot yourself in the foot by having a big mouth.


TMI (Too Much Information)

I cannot tell you how many times I see people posting TMI. That is too much information that we don't need to know about. I do not need to know your personal business in the bathroom, doctor's office, or bedroom. That information doesn't need to be public. Be careful of what you post online and share with other people. You don't want to be too open of a book.

TMI is a turnoff for many people.


Know It All

When your comments and posts have you appearing like you know everything and those around you know nothing, you are causing problems for yourself. Many times I have been in a group with one person who always corrected others or had to one-up those around them. That gets old very fast.

When you act like a know it all, you can turn people off and even have them avoid you. Why should they hang around you if all you are going to do is belittle them or try to make them look foolish next to you?


Be Part of the Group

Don't take over conversations. Do not force yourself to be the center of attention. Think of the other people. Be a part of the group and not the group. That means letting others talk, asking them questions, being polite, sharing info while sharing respect, being supportive instead of condescending. Be someone who people want to network with. Be someone who people want to associate with.

Think of how you like to be treated. Odds are that others want to be treated the same way. Be willing to step back and condition yourself to be better at networking and learning to keep your mouth shut when it needs to be.

© 2017 Rebecca Graf


Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 29, 2017:

That is good advice. I tend to shy away from contentious subjects for the most part whether I agree with the subject matter or disagree. Why alienate a good portion of your potential audience?

Kari Poulsen from Ohio on September 29, 2017:

Great tips. Probably every kid should read this when they get their first cell phone!

Heidi Thorne from Chicago Area on September 29, 2017:

Good networking know-how for anyone, not just authors! :)