To Remove or not Remove
Deleting, or “unfriending” Facebook friends can bring immediate relief to an uncomfortable, annoying or offensive interaction. And let's face it, some people definitely need to be deleted. Internet-bullies, spammers, stalkers, perverts and strangers should be removed without question.
On the other hand, the satisfaction gained from deleting someone as a Facebook friend could also bring on negative or awkward situations; particularly, if you also have an in-person relationship with them. Getting rid of your snoopy cousin, or a co-worker who likes to share too much information may feel great at the time, but once your betrayal is noticed, you may have to do some quick explaining.
Luckily, the privacy settings on Facebook allow you to keep them as friends without having to go through their obnoxious comments, never ending updates, constant fighting with family members, or unwelcome profile stalking.
Below are some quick and painless ways to avoid them, so you don't jeopardize your offline relationship with them.
However, in the off chance these tips aren't successful; we will first take a look at how to just “unfriend” them and be done with it.
How to Unfriend Someone on Facebook
How To Unfriend or Delete Someone On Facebook
Sometimes it just makes sense to delete a Facebook friend. You could have accepted a friend request from a stranger by accident, or a friend of a friend may constantly spam you. Which obstructs your news feed with too much useless stuff.
To free yourself from them, do the following:
- Go to their profile
- Click your mouse on the “Friends” button underneath the large photograph on their page.
- Click the “Unfriend” section located at the bottom of the pop-up menu and voila, they're gone.
How Facebook Friends Know They Were Unfriended
One good thing is that Facebook doesn't notify people when someone has unfriended them. However, your former Facebook friend may notice they have one less friend on their list. So they may search to find out who it is.
Other Ways Facebook Friends Can Find Out You've Unfriended Them
They could also go to your timeline and see the following:
Do you know Koralee? To see what she shares with friends, send her a friend request.
Alternatively they could read comments from mutual friends on your posts, and then notice they can't see see the actual post anymore.
When to Avoid or Unfriend Facebook Friends
When they find out, it probably won't be a big deal if they live far away from you, or if they're just an acquaintance. But, if there is a chance you will see them in your daily life and you don't want any confrontations, avoid them using the techniques below.
Play Hide and Seek
How to Hide Posts From Your News Feed
Let's pretend your in-person friend Koralee, (that's me), is constantly obstructing your feed with boring, long-winded updates and photographs. You can hide my activity without deleting me as a friend.
To block my posts, do the following:
- Click on my name to go to my profile;
- Hover over the “Friends” button below my bigger photograph;
On the menu that drops down, uncheck the “Show in news feed.”
This will stop my posts from automatically going onto your news feed.
How To Hide Different Types of Facebook Activities
You can also hide different types of Koralee's activity. Let's pretend that I'm on vacation, so I'm uploading hundreds of photographs every 30-minutes. To save yourself from having to see them, take the following steps:
1. Click the “Friends” button on my profile page again.
2. Choose the settings option from the drop-down menu and go to “What types of updates?”
3. Hit “photos,” to get rid of the check mark.
Now you won't see my constant photo updates.
How To Tweak Facebook Settings
Lastly, you can tweak your settings to only see my key updates, such as certain life events, by doing the following:
- Go one more time to the Friends button on my profile.
- Choose settings
- Go to “How many updates?”
- Click the “Only Important” option.
If you perform the above actions, I will still be your Facebook friend and have all the benefits that go with it, but I won't be driving you nuts any more. Later, if I change my ways, you can change your settings back. Since you won't be reading my updates, you may want to go to my timeline every so often to see what I'm up to.
Another tip on how to hide posts
How to Hide Your Posts From Certain Facebook Friends
Let's pretend you are throwing me, a surprise party so you don't want me to see your status updates. The easiest way to stop me from seeing is to add me to your restricted list. I won't be able to see your posts. or profile info that you only share with friends. Exception: I can still see any posts that I am tagged in, and this includes photographs.
How to Add a Facebook Friend to The “Restricted” List
To add me to your restricted list, do the following:
- Go to my Facebook page.
- Click the “Friends” button underneath my big photo.
- Click add to another list.
- Hit “show all lists.”
- Click to put a check mark beside the “Restricted” list.
How to Control "Public" Facebook Posts
Keep in mind that while I'm on your restricted list, I can still see any posts that you have made public. To make sure that nothing is posted as public, do the following:
Double-check that your audience selector is put to “Friends” before you post anything.
Important: I am still able to see what other friends write on your timeline as well as what you write on the pages of our mutual friends.
How to Hide Posts Rather Than Restrict A Facebook Friend
You can also hide random posts from me, without having to restrict me from all of them (my daughter does this to me all the time). Do the following to hide posts:
- Under your post, click the audience selector and hit “Custom,” from the menu.
- A screen will appear, type in “Koralee” in the “Hide this from” box. My name will appear once you start typing it, then you can just click it.
- Save the changes.
Facebook Etiquette: Unfriend a Facebook Friend
To Unfriend Or Not
Although changing your Facebook settings provides you with some online sharing control, it's not a perfect system. If it is crucial to protect yourself and/or your privacy on Facebook from certain people, unfriending them is probably the safest option.
What's Your Best Facebook Story?
Roshan shinde on December 15, 2018:
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on August 10, 2018:
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on January 10, 2015:
LOL, With age comes wisdom, so perhaps your way is better. Thanks a lot for sharing your opinion, I got a good chuckle :)
Mary on January 05, 2015:
I am turning 76 in a few days and have decided I can't waste any more time with irritating "friends", even old high school buddies, who constantly remonstrate with me about my political opinions and who are always trying to "teach" me something. Off with you I say. I have taken to unfriending the buggers and letting the chips fall where they may. It is quite freeing, may I say? LOL
Johnd712 on July 30, 2014:
Magnificent website. Lots of useful information here. Im sending it to some friends ans also sharing in delicious. And obviously, thanks for your sweat! caeeakdbackd
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on November 22, 2013:
I know some people can go nuts when they think you've blocked or deleted them from Facebook. Sorry that you had to close your Facebook, but who needs the hassle.
I'm only on Facebook to get notifications about what my family and close friends are doing. Actually, my friend is in Australia right now so I go there every day to look and see if she's posted any pictures. Thankfully she doesn't over due it, and consume my news feed :)
CraftytotheCore on November 22, 2013:
Good advice! And very true. I can't recall how many times someone thought I had blocked them, and I had not. It created so many problems. People would become very upset over it. I don't use FB now for that very reason. It just became a hassle for me.
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on September 27, 2013:
Thank you so much sunilkunnoth2012
Sunil Kumar Kunnoth from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India) on September 27, 2013:
Thanks for this much valuable information. Shared and voted up.
Rolly A Chabot from Alberta Canada on May 14, 2013:
Hi KoraleeP... great article and certainly many good points here to ponder. Sometime social media can become a bit of a circus and often the desire to simply leave is a better option than to face the deluge of messages. They can be overwhelming at times.
Thank you for writing this, been a great help.
Hugs from Alberta...
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on March 07, 2013:
Thank you DVD Cloner
DVD Cloner 2013 on March 07, 2013:
Long time fan and this is my first time posting. I can’t really think of what to say other than that your blog is very discerning and Im always looking forward to your new content.
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on March 01, 2013:
Hi aziza786. Thank you very much for your kind comments. There are a lot of people who are only on FB to babble endlessly about themselves. I'm glad we have a way to ignore them lol.
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on March 01, 2013:
Thank you very much Asp52. There is a lot of pointless rubbish (I love your choice of words). It is truly a blessing that there are ways to get rid of, or slow down how much junk (rubbish) you have to wade through to get to what you really want to read on Facebook.
Zia Uddin from UK on February 28, 2013:
Thanks for sharing this hub, very useful for those who want to socialize on Facebook maturely and safely, and most importantly , the right way with proper good intentions.
I do agree with the post above that Facebook can be a blessing or a curse, or maybe a menace. There are far too many users who don't bother about privacy and hardly tweak their settings, they enjoy being out in open just to show off, make many virtual friends, post their quotes or whatever, to impress the others.
Thanks for sharing this hub and I will share too.
Andrew Stewart from England on February 28, 2013:
Excellent hub, Facebook is a blessing and a curse. The amount of pointless rubbish that is shown on the news feed is mind numbing. I have followed some of your advice to avoid having to wade through peoples minute by minute account of their lives and perceived ills. Thank you for sharing this information with us, great work and voted up!
Koralee Phillips (author) from Vancouver British Columbia Canada on December 31, 2012:
Thank you article eric I know what you mean. I can't believe how upset some people can get when they are deleted as a friend on FB, even though they take no thought to what they post on their statuses and such. I'm glad Facebook has the privacy options to work around it.
Eric from Seattle, WA on December 31, 2012:
I'm not one for hurting someone's feelings on FB, but it becomes somewhat of a bother when certain friends post incessantly and fill up my news feed with stuff I don't care to see. So I choose to typically uncheck the "show on newsfeed" option. This way, they're not unfriended, it doesn't cause discomfort, and at the same time, I don't have to see all their posts any longer!