Facebook Etiquette – How To Unfriend, Restrict Friends, and Hide Posts
To Remove or not Remove
Deleting, or “unfriending” Facebook friends can bring immediate relief to an uncomfortable, annoying or offensive interaction. And let's face it, some people definitely need to be deleted. Internet-bullies, spammers, stalkers, perverts and strangers should be removed without question.
On the other hand, the satisfaction gained from deleting someone as a Facebook friend could also bring on negative or awkward situations; particularly, if you also have an in-person relationship with them. Getting rid of your snoopy cousin, or a co-worker who likes to share too much information may feel great at the time, but once your betrayal is noticed, you may have to do some quick explaining.
Luckily, the privacy settings on Facebook allow you to keep them as friends without having to go through their obnoxious comments, never ending updates, constant fighting with family members, or unwelcome profile stalking.
Below are some quick and painless ways to avoid them, so you don't jeopardize your offline relationship with them.
However, in the off chance these tips aren't successful; we will first take a look at how to just “unfriend” them and be done with it.
How to Unfriend Someone on Facebook
How To Unfriend or Delete Someone On Facebook
Sometimes it just makes sense to delete a Facebook friend. You could have accepted a friend request from a stranger by accident, or a friend of a friend may constantly spam you. Which obstructs your news feed with too much useless stuff.
To free yourself from them, do the following:
Go to their profile
Click your mouse on the “Friends” button underneath the large photograph on their page.
Click the “Unfriend” section located at the bottom of the pop-up menu and voila, they're gone.
How Facebook Friends Know They Were Unfriended
One good thing is that Facebook doesn't notify people when someone has unfriended them. However, your former Facebook friend may notice they have one less friend on their list. So they may search to find out who it is.
Other Ways Facebook Friends Can Find Out You've Unfriended Them
They could also go to your timeline and see the following:
Do you know Koralee? To see what she shares with friends, send her a friend request.
Alternatively they could read comments from mutual friends on your posts, and then notice they can't see see the actual post anymore.
When to Avoid or Unfriend Facebook Friends
When they find out, it probably won't be a big deal if they live far away from you, or if they're just an acquaintance. But, if there is a chance you will see them in your daily life and you don't want any confrontations, avoid them using the techniques below.
Play Hide and Seek
How to Hide Posts From Your News Feed
Let's pretend your in-person friend Koralee, (that's me), is constantly obstructing your feed with boring, long-winded updates and photographs. You can hide my activity without deleting me as a friend.
To block my posts, do the following:
Click on my name to go to my profile;
Hover over the “Friends” button below my bigger photograph;
On the menu that drops down, uncheck the “Show in news feed.”
This will stop my posts from automatically going onto your news feed.
How To Hide Different Types of Facebook Activities
You can also hide different types of Koralee's activity. Let's pretend that I'm on vacation, so I'm uploading hundreds of photographs every 30-minutes. To save yourself from having to see them, take the following steps:
1. Click the “Friends” button on my profile page again.
2. Choose the settings option from the drop-down menu and go to “What types of updates?”
3. Hit “photos,” to get rid of the check mark.
Now you won't see my constant photo updates.
How To Tweak Facebook Settings
Lastly, you can tweak your settings to only see my key updates, such as certain life events, by doing the following:
Go one more time to the Friends button on my profile.
Go to “How many updates?”
Click the “Only Important” option.
If you perform the above actions, I will still be your Facebook friend and have all the benefits that go with it, but I won't be driving you nuts any more. Later, if I change my ways, you can change your settings back. Since you won't be reading my updates, you may want to go to my timeline every so often to see what I'm up to.
Another tip on how to hide posts
How to Hide Your Posts From Certain Facebook Friends
Let's pretend you are throwing me, a surprise party so you don't want me to see your status updates. The easiest way to stop me from seeing is to add me to your restricted list. I won't be able to see your posts. or profile info that you only share with friends. Exception: I can still see any posts that I am tagged in, and this includes photographs.
How to Add a Facebook Friend to The “Restricted” List
To add me to your restricted list, do the following:
Go to my Facebook page.
Click the “Friends” button underneath my big photo.
Click add to another list.
Hit “show all lists.”
Click to put a check mark beside the “Restricted” list.
How to Control "Public" Facebook Posts
Keep in mind that while I'm on your restricted list, I can still see any posts that you have made public. To make sure that nothing is posted as public, do the following:
Double-check that your audience selector is put to “Friends” before you post anything.
Important: I am still able to see what other friends write on your timeline as well as what you write on the pages of our mutual friends.
How to Hide Posts Rather Than Restrict A Facebook Friend
You can also hide random posts from me, without having to restrict me from all of them (my daughter does this to me all the time). Do the following to hide posts:
Under your post, click the audience selector and hit “Custom,” from the menu.
A screen will appear, type in “Koralee” in the “Hide this from” box. My name will appear once you start typing it, then you can just click it.
Save the changes.
Facebook Etiquette: Unfriend a Facebook Friend
With what you know now, are you going to unfriend your annoying Facebook friends?
To Unfriend Or Not
Although changing your Facebook settings provides you with some online sharing control, it's not a perfect system. If it is crucial to protect yourself and/or your privacy on Facebook from certain people, unfriending them is probably the safest option.