Lorelei has always loved writing and her topics are very diverse. She focuses on life's challenges and current or popular events.
Facebook is ever changing it seems. Sometimes the changes are helpful and sometimes they are just confusing. Or should I say they are just annoying? Part of the problem is that they often are not clear on how to do things. People do not always understand how to make the site work to its fullest potential. There are some often missed features that most are not aware of that can help you make the most of your friend’s posts, the games, and the process of writing and editing a post. I will attempt to clear up some of the faux pas we tend to make when posting and some of the things most people do not like to see. Take them or leave them, but do consider them.
One of the most helpful things I have learned about using Facebook is to check the facts on my posts. We tend to just read something and share it without thinking. There are so many articles, so many shocking things, so much hate and so many funny signs. The problem is most of it is not true.
With today's technology, there are multiple ways to change a photograph to say or look like you want. It seems you only have to write that something is true and people will believe it no matter how outrageous. My tip is to stop before you share. Do a quick Internet search and check your facts. Just because it's on several sites does not make it true. Look deeper. There are many fact-checking websites out there they catch most of the fakes. Another way is to take a minute and think about if something is feasible. If not, do not share it.
Editing in Facebook
Have you ever started reading someone’s reply or post and realize it’s just one, very long paragraph? It can become very tedious to read these very long posts. While you can usually create paragraph spaces while writing on your own timeline, replying is more difficult. If you hit enter it just posts the comment. To create a paragraph space simply hold down the shift key while simultaneously hitting the return. And if you are the kind of person who does not use paragraphs, you should start. It makes your post easier and more likely to be read.
Have you ever noticed the 3 little dots on the right hand, top corner of your posts? Many have not. If you click on those dots you get a drop-down menu that includes many useful options. It helps you to save a video, view edit history, change the date, embed, turn off notifications for the post, and more? I will address a couple of these.
- Editing a post – How often have you made a spelling error, hit enter before you were done typing, or wished you had said more in your post? Maybe you want to update what you said at a later date? What most often happens is that someone will correct themselves by adding another post. This is not necessary. Merely click those 3 dots and you can edit your post or the comment you made on someone else’s post.
- Deleting a post – Again, you do not like what you said, or the post is now irrelevant and you no longer want it on your feed. Click the 3 dots and select delete. A box will come up asking if you want to delete or edit. If you delete it disappears from your timeline.
- Saving a video or post – Sometimes you may want to find an old post. Anyone who’s tried to search for one knows that it can be a pain. Instead, if you know you will want to keep it to retrieve later, you can save the post. Let’s say you have a video or special post on your timeline that you want to save. All you need to do is click on those 3 dots and ask Facebook to save it. Then you can either look to the left of your homepage to retrieve it, by clicking saved (not always visible). Or you can go to Facebook.com/saved to view what you have saved. Note: make sure you are logged into Facebook before typing in the link.
The privacy section is often overlooked by new users. Go to settings, then click on privacy from the left menu. You can then view your activity and contact preferences. Look at the options and choose what best suits the security you would like to have. Most people do not want their posts to be public, so they choose to have only friends view their posts. Go through the list and choose the options that best suit your needs. You can always change them later if you want to.
Many people are getting hacked and their accounts cloned. This happened to me and I was receiving weird messages. I found that you can add a second layer of security in settings. All I had to do was choose the options that say I must be texted a Facebook code in order to make changes. It has been surprising how often people try to access my account. I regularly get Facebook texts saying I asked for a code. I just ignore the text and chuckle to myself saying, "Not today hacker, not today."
If you have spent any time on Facebook you know they have lots of games. This is great if you like to play games, but not so great if you do not. I often hear people complain about getting these requests and may get angry at their friends for sharing them. First, let me say that the games get tricky and sometimes a player clicks on a share they did not intend to send. As long as your friends continue to play the games it is likely you will get requests. Rather than get upset, just block the games. There are three ways to do that.
- If you want to block invites from a specific friend you can click on the ‘Ignore all invites from this friend’. This is located under their request. (Note: This will block all invites of any kind)
- Click on the request to play the game. It will take you to the game page. From there you can click on “block all requests from...insert game name”.
- Go to settings located at the top right where the little arrow points down. Once there click Blocking from the left menu. Scroll down to “Block apps” and type in the game name.
- Facebook is a website for all ages. Understand that not all your friends understand text talk. Yup, not even some of the young people grasp some of them. Beyond the universal “LOL” many get lost. Unless your audience consists of only those under the age of 25, they may not understand. Even some who know how to sometimes need to stop and think about it. Make it easy for everyone and just type the full word.
- Typing in "ALL CAPS" is considered yelling. Nothing annoys readers more than trying to read a post and seeing chunks of the sentence all in capital letters. It is the equivalent of talking to someone and then screaming out one or two words in the conversation. Worse, the whole post is in caps. There is no need for it. It does not make your post more emphatic, it makes it more obnoxious to read.
All Caps is Yelling
- Having talked about the “all caps” issue, let me now state that Facebook - or any social media site for that matter - is not a good place to have an argument. Why do your friends and family need to read how cruel you and maybe your “friend” are to each other? It is tantamount to gossip as you are spewing out terrible things about someone else.
- Do not hang your dirty laundry for all to see. The gripes you are having with others should be private. Like number 3, it is gossip and the world does not need to hear about it. I am always amazed when I read someone’s post reaming out their sibling, parent, friend, or another relative on Facebook. Sometimes I wish I could wash the comments from my brain. Let’s be realistic, this will probably blow over, but what you have said will be remembered by all of those who read it. Do us all a favor and pick up the phone or write a private letter.
- Do not tag the world - Unless it is a photo of someone or something you know an individual would really like to see, do not tag them in any post. I have been tagged in several posts that I do not necessarily want to be tagged in. Usually, they come from someone who has tagged 10 to 99 other people. What you think is important, is not something everyone wants to know. People usually do not want it showing up on their feed, or necessarily want their friends to see it. If you post something, they are likely to see it on their own while scanning posts. If you do think it is important for them to see, then send a private message and they can make a point of viewing it on their own.
- No group Messenger - Another way people group share. This is even more offensive because many people are involved and multiple replies. Most people have Messenger set up on their phones and the conversation cannot always be stopped.
- Know your audience? Many people choose to post colorful language, sexual innuendo, and images. It is one thing if your friend is reading your post, but what about grandma or your 8-year-old sister? If you have people on your friends' list that should not see such things then keep them private. Also, think about sharing only with your friends and not with friends of friends because you do not know who may be viewing your commentary on their timeline.
Do you have some great tips? Please share them or message me and I’ll add them to this list.
© 2018 Lorelei Nettles